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How To Set Goals Properly

I was having a conversation with a client of mine recently who is in the process of building his company. It has been doing very well, and like every growing company, he is now taking on new employees and transitioning to a more management orientated role. One of his employees has been hounding him for more…

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The Real Problem In Our Relationships

Recently, I was speaking with a friend who had been struggling with certain aspects of her husband’s behaviour. She was in a whirlwind of emotion when she started to explain to me that, whilst she loved her husband, he had habits that she could not tolerate anymore. She explained to me how she felt trapped more…

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Vulnerability – A Strength In Business And In Life

Today I was talking with one of my clients who was moving to a new office. Despite the fact that business had been slow and he was having to make cost savings, he was actually doing great. After probing around a little bit, it turns out that after coaching with me for a while, he more…

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The Most Provocative Question I Have Ever Been Asked…

Some years ago, my coach asked me a pretty provocative question – “Would you coach Hitler”? At the time he asked me this question, I used to believe that I couldn’t, and I even wrote an article about it.  In those days, my coaching was very much based in an outside-in paradigm. A paradigm that more…

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The Pool Of Life

Yesterday I was working with my teacher at his home talking about a wide range of things when his wife mentioned playfully about the ongoing struggle to keep the pool clean from the pine-needles dropping down from the tree. Since it was a nice day, my teacher and I decided to sit next to the more…

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Freedom, Parenting and Weight-loss…

Introduction: The following article was conceived as a stream of consciousness and contains quite a mix of information, some of which may not be immediately easy to grasp. I offer it as a gift, but am not attached to it’s content. I considered splitting it up into several articles, and posting them separately, and even more…

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The Real Source Of Our Pain, And How To Be Free From It.

I am often asked what is different about transformation coaching versus traditional coaching models. So, a few weeks ago I placed a note on my Facebook page asking my friends if there were any issues that were bothering them that I could write about, that might make for good articles to give people a real more…

Life Is Not Stressful. We Are.

I realise this is a pretty bold statement, and likely to stir up quite a bit of resistance in many of you. So I write this from a very personal perspective, to avoid potentially belittling other people’s pain. I know a lot about stress. I suffered for many years from an anxiety disorder that sent more…

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‘The Dark Side Of Our Personality’ – How Our Patterns Get In The Way.

Given the name of this blog, you might be thinking of Darth Vader and the Star Wars series. Such is the extent to which we can be conditioned and anchored to to think about things in particular ways, that it can almost become a default position. Much of my work is about helping people see more…

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do.

When working with clients, I am often asked to help them to work out what to do, or what their next step should be. In our world, we are constantly being conditioned to “do more”, such that when we don’t know what to do, it creates a discomfort in us that tries to compel us more…